So Small w/ Lyrics

We have to go through hell before we get to Haven

I know it has been a long time since I have posted. In all truth I had lost hope for people. but now people are getting back together and things are once again back to almost normal. It is true, there is still some conflict. But in all, everyone is getting along nicely. People are starting to learn that the best way to deal with things is to just leave it alone, and move on with their lives.

The best way to show love to a person that you don't like, or that does not like you is by showing them respect, even when they show you none in return. Understand, I'm not saying that one should sit and take hate aimed in their direction. Always stand up for what you believe in, but don't fight hate with hate, it will lead you both nowhere. If you are being treated badly by someone else then you most go by the old saying “Be the Bigger Man”. Show them that there is another way, through your actions and how you handle the situation.

This was from a post I did a long time ago. (Look at love for your foe)
I am very happy by how things are going between the chat rooms on tinychat. I see many people that still dislike others, however,(for the most part) everyone is showing others respect. I hope that it will stay this way. If people really would want to know what happen to Michael Jackson, then they most stop allowing themselves to be distracted by senseless feuds.

However, I do believe that in same cases the problem was with a very few select people that just did not, and still will not, allow there to be a resolve of the people in the chatrooms.

So this is what I have to say. Everyone that wants there to be peace, keep doing what you are doing. You’re doing well. However keep an eye on the ones that do not seem to want to do the same. If you can, talk to such people and see if you can help them to let go of their anger and hate.
To the people that do not wish for there to be peace in the rooms, who are still attacking people. I pray that you will find peace. I cannot, and do not live in hate.

We have to go through hell before we get to haven. We all went through hell for the last few months. But now there is peace. I am even seeing some people that was divided as rooms, that are starting to come together again and now are on friendly terms. God bless the people that can be friends after such an ordeal.

I will end this post today. I don’t feel like there is any reason why I should do more post, it seems like most of you have found your way back to love. Please, I hope that you will always come back to my posts when you are having a problem with someone. I hope they will help you.

Standing Up Against Hate

Hate is the root of all evil. One thing that is just as bad as spreading hate, is seeing hate in action and doing nothing about it. Standing up for someone that is being treated badly is one of the many ways to show love, even to a complete stranger. When you see someone bashing someone else then you need to speak up. If people speak out against injustice, it will be stopped. Never be afraid to stand up for what is right. You have to combat hate by taking positive action and letting it be known that the hate will not be accepted.

Cyber bulling is the number one thing that causes division and hate in the hoax community. The definition of cyber-bullying is "when the Internet, cell phones or other devices are used to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person." Words that are said without any thought to the damage that it can truly cause. This should not be taken lightly. This kind of bashing can cause a person to have a variety of emotional responses: it could make them bully back, and only cause more damage, it could make them scared, frustrated, angry, or depressed. This could result in low self-esteem and can even put a person at risk for suicidal behavior.

Many people may find it fun to talk bad and be ugly to others, but there is nothing funny about it. If you see someone that is doing this you must say something, and If you can’t stop them, at least try to help the victim and report the behavior. By doing this you are not being a snitch, you are looking out for the well being of another person, who, in return, may do the same for you.

What is love?

Love (noun.) --A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
(From www.theonlinedictionary.com )

First Corinthians: Chapter 13: Verses 4-8
(4) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. (5)It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. (6) Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. (7) It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (8)Love never fails.

Love cannot be put in to words easily; they simply do not do it justices. Perhaps that's why I spent an hour looking for a simple definition, and why the Bible uses so many verses to describe it. Because love is so powerful, so pure, we humans do not fully understand it. Love is beyond any power in this world, love rules us all and we are all bound by it. There is nothing that can destroy love. If you believe in a higher power then you will know that everything was created with love. All man has been given the gift to love one another, to care about one another. However, greed and jealousy has blinded man’s hearts to this.

We are our own worst enemy at times, and have allowed ourselves to put hate before love. How can one see a person in pain and say they do not care, that is not the way that man’s heart were destined to work. That is why this world is the way it is. The world is so hard because we are swimming against the current. People have allowed themselves to hate so much that they do not see the hurt they are causing, its very sad. Every person must look deep within them and find the love that we are meant to have. This world has become cold, but it can change. What people do not realize is that to change this world is not as hard as it may seem. If fact it can be very easy, but we have been fooled in to believing that it is imposable, and so we do not try.


Love is not just Michael’s message; the teachings of love have been in this world since the beginning of time. Our dear Michael was simply another person that was trying to get us to remember what love is. When you are trying to spread the message of love, this is what you must do as well. Help others to find the love that they have lost. Make them remember, we have all been able to love this much at one time. When we were children we had that love, and deep down we still do. That is how I know that this world can be change, because what is lost can always be found.

Love Your Foe

There are many ways to show love. We kiss our significant others, we hug our parents and children, we even snuggle our pets. Shouldn't we show everyone the consideration we would show these people? Even the people we may not like or agree with. I understand that there are differences and disagreements between people, forms, chat rooms, and blogs. But that does not mean that we should treat each other rudely. The best way to show love to a person that you don't like, or that does not like you is by showing them respect, even when they show you none in return. Understand, I'm not saying that one should sit and take hate aimed in their direction. Always stand up for what you believe in, but don't fight hate with hate, it will lead you both nowhere. If you are being treated badly by someone else then you most go by the old saying “Be the Bigger Man”. Show them that there is another way, through your actions and how you handle the situation.

Refrain from cursing when you responded to anything. Not only does cursing make the situation more uncomfortable. It shows immaturity, and takes away from your statement. Most people will not take a person seriously when they've posted a comment filled with curse words; to them your words have no meaning. I am not saying that one should never curse. Cursing is usually acceptable when one is joking or, of course, when shocked! But to curse out of anger is the one thing that you must try to avoid. The one good thing about the internet is that you can almost always go back in to your comments and take out the hate before you posted them, unlike speaking. (One must be especially careful when having voice conferences!) After you've typed something out, think about what you are saying. Reread it. Ask yourself what your comment will do. Will it create love? Is it showing hate?

Refrain from accusing a person of doing something or being something before you have solid proof of what you are saying. Too often, we make accusing statements we can't back up. I assure you that this will only do more harm. Again, it’s all in the way one word things. You can say something one way and show love, but if you say it in another, you show hate. For instance, maybe someone has told you something and you're finding it hard to believe. You can call them a liar, accusing them of something without proof or you can say: 'I'm not sure I can believe this story'. This statement doesn’t accuse anyone of anything; you’re simply stating your opinion: You personally don't believe this person, but you're not degrading, or bashing them.

Always allow people to say what they need to say. Many times I have seen a person cut off by harsh words and comments before they've been given the chance to say their bit. No matter your opinion, they have the right to speak their mind as much as you do. Let them speak, soon they will tell you all you need to know, and that gives everyone the chance to determine for themselves if they think the statement is true.

After you've said your opinion about someone, don't keep going back and adding more and more to it. If you must give your option on something, try to say what you want in one post, or all at once, and then leave it alone. It's unhealthily, and simply rude, to keep attacking someone or something you don't like. You must remember that these are real people out in Internet-Land, with real emotions. They feel pain and anger the way you do, but the last thing you need to do is cause more hate. Give your option only so that people know where you stand, never to bring the person posting down. It doesn't matter how mean, or unlikeable a person is, everyone has a right as a human to be respected.

Where to start

Throughout the hoax we have always seen the word love. Love has always been a part of Michael’s message, “It’s all for love, L.O.V.E. “However, there is a very obvious lack of love in the hoax community. I am sure that many of you have noticed this. It is something that needs to be changed, not just for the hoax or for Michael, but for ourselves. But where do we start? How can we turn the hate that runs through our community into love? It all starts with you, as an individual. You, as a person must first make a change in order to play your part in this community.

Michael talks about this in his song ‘Man in the Mirror‘: “if you wanna make the world a better place take a look at yourself them make that change.” You, alone can control what you do. You must first have love before you give love, and then you must learn to show it. Be one whose personality shines with kindness, and love. Be someone that people can talk freely with, and about, without hateful words.


By showing love, you set an example, one that, if seen often enough, other people will follow. Imagine what would happen if everyone did this, how much more enjoyable this community would be. Everything that grows must first be planted. Once love has been planted it can grown in to something wonderful, something that brings joy, happiness and reassurance. But it is up to each individual to plant that seed.


Many have doubts that there is no way that everyone will be able to get along. I must say that it will take a while, nothing happens overnight, but it CAN be done. You must have faith in love; love is stronger than anything. If you don’t have faith in love, then you will never be able to be loved, not for the right reasons, at least. No, not everyone will show love all at once, there will be times that you seem to be the only one around you that is showing any love at all. But that is ok; your ability to show love when there is so much hate around you makes you unique and special. Soon people will see your love and that will inspire them to do the same, and so a seed is planted. Then one by one people will change, they will learn to love as well.

A small note while I work on my first post

Hello everyone, I would like to address a question that has been brought up that I forgot to say in my opening post. Someone asked me: why is the blog called “The Second Step is L.O.V.E”, shouldn’t it be the first step? Well in all truth the first step should have been love, but unfortunately the hoax community put love off to the side last year. It is my belief that we now need to pick Michael’s message back up. We have pages up on pages, and video after video proving that Michael is alive. So in other words to me the first year (first step) was about the hoax. The second year (second step) is about learning, living and spreading the message of love. We need to fix ourselves before that hoax can be over. I am by no means saying that we should stop the investigation, i thank that the members now need to start to step up and play their part.

thank you all and God bless

ps: please follow me on twitter. i will use this twitter account to alert all that wish to follow when i have made a new post, thank you

http://twitter.com/The2ndStepisLOV